It all starts with the love between partners, and blossoms into a love that connects their children and some extended families forever. There are many reasons why blended families will change your life.
*This is my families story. All the accomplishments and amazing memories right along with the heartache and pain. I felt so alone many times becoming a blended family I wanted to share my experience and let others know, you are not alone.*
When you get into a relationship where your families will blend, you’re looking at a lot of factors to determine whether everyone will be a good fit. What’s your parenting style? How do the kids get along? How do you get along with the kids? You take all of these mysterious qualities and mix them into a blender and you somehow come out with a family. A family that is equal parts civil war and united front. A blended family starts with the heartbreak and loss of one family, and the slow growth from that loss, into the safety and comfort of a new unit. When you experience that new unit, and the tough work it takes to get there, you won’t be surprised that blended families will change your life.
Why Blended Families Will Change Your Life
It became clear once we all moved in together that being a blending family wasn’t going to be an easy task. That was nothing to be afraid of, nothing worthwhile ever came without work.
You’ll Be Making An Investment In Something Many Don’t Believe In
Hard does not mean impossible, but let the naysayers tell it, they’re synonyms. Blended families will change your life because you’ll be putting your all into making a family relationship work that many people think is impossible. It is going to be very hard some days, and you may even question your dedication, but just remember that Rome wasn’t built in a day. You’re taking two jagged pieces and fitting them together. That’s going to require a little sanding down to make a great fit. Every day you spend with your family working through problems and celebrating triumphs is going to be worthwhile.
I took numerous showers so I could cry without others hearing me. It happens. We are not all the same and thats what makes us all special in our own ways.
Your Perspective On Life Will Change
Before you met your partner and their children, there was just you and yours. There were the rhythm and traditions that you enjoyed and everyone was used to that. Now there is a whole new set of wishes, wants and demands to consider. You’re going to learn more about a different way of living life from these new family members, and your perspective on how to live is going to change because of it. Blended families will change your life just because you’re going to have fresh thoughts and ideas flowing through your household. When those come together, something new and incredible is born.
Learning what traditions my husband and his son had prior to us getting together was interesting. Blending those with the ones myself and kids had was not as much as a challenge as you’d think. We added this or that and changed the way we did some things and ended up with new traditions.
You Will Learn How To Compromise
Learning to keep everyone happy is not easy, but you can do it. Compromise is going to be really important, even more than it is in a normal family. Why? Because you are taking two established family units and putting them together. Everyone is going to be uncomfortable at first and it is really important you don’t judge each other; this is a great way that blended families will change your life. Everyone is capable of getting stuck in their ways, but when you’re in a blended family you learn that there are certain issues that aren’t worth the argument. Take your time to understand where each side is coming from, and on some issues, it is ok if you all continue to do things differently. Remembering there is no right or wrong on a lot of issues is crucial to blending a family.
Compromise is a HUGE deal. As you will see in my future articles on Blended Families it can never be all take and never give. Understanding why you have specific feelings is just as important as being able to justify why you feel a specific way.
Congratulations on beginning your new life together as a family. There are going to be wonderfully happy memories that you all build together. Blended families will change your life, and if you are ready to put in the work, you’ll be so happy that you were open to the change. What is the biggest change you’ve adjusted to as part of a blended family?
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