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*This is my families story. All the accomplishments and amazing memories right along with the heartache and pain. I felt so alone many times becoming a blended family I wanted to share my experience and let others know, you are not alone.*
So, you’ve met the one, after a series of amazing dates and it is getting pretty serious. Not so fast, there’s one more step to take before you seal the deal: they have to meet your kids.
When I made the decision to have my husband meet my kids we decided to have a playdate. It kept the mood calm and normal for my kids. I am so excited that they took to him in mere minutes. Playing football and questions out the wazoo.
We live in a world that is ever-changing, but we still do our best to protect our babies from the reality of that world. If you’re dating again, that means they’ve already seen a relationship of yours fail, and they have gone through the pain and the adjustment along with you. While you’re dating again, it is only responsible not to introduce them to a series of new boyfriends. You can bear the disappointment, they don’t need to. Now, things have changed. You’ve met someone who you’re certain is safe.
Introducing Your Significant Other To Your Kids
It’s no small feat. Because you’ve been so careful, introducing your significant other to your kids is making a statement. When they meet your significant other they know you’re serious, and you intend for the relationship to last.
Preparing Your Kids To Meet Your Significant Other
While they haven’t met, introducing your kids to your significant other shouldn’t be a surprise. As the relationship deepens, there is no reason why they shouldn’t know that you’ve met someone and you’re becoming serious. When you go on dates or answer the phone, make it a point to let them know you’re dating someone. If you take those steps before a meeting, they will already be eager to meet this new person in your life. The last thing you want is to spring this on your children out of nowhere. Kids need security, so give them time to get used to the idea. When it is time for them to meet your significant other, they’ll be just as excited to get to know him as you are.
Preparing Your Significant Other To Meet Your Kids
Just like you don’t want to let your children in the dark, don’t leave your significant other in the dark. When you’re introducing your significant other, you want them to feel like the meeting is just a formality. They should already have a good idea of who your children are, what their personalities are like, and what makes them happy. Make sure that your significant other knows you’re not expecting them to be a substitute parent, but more like a friend who the children are getting to know. Let them know if there is anything specific that could turn the kids off or scare them so that everything can go smoothly for you all.
Introducing your significant other to your kids doesn’t have to be awkward and painful. After all, you’re talking about making a meeting between the people who you love, not an unpleasant task. Take your time to prepare everyone so they know what to expect from each side, and be sure to remember that this meeting is going to be fun! What are you most excited for your significant other and your kids to learn about each other?