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*This is my families story. All the accomplishments and amazing memories right along with the heartache and pain. I felt so alone many times becoming a blended family I wanted to share my experience and let others know, you are not alone.*
Blended families get a bad rap they don’t deserve. Regardless of the outsider opinion, there are things that won’t happen in blended families.
When you first met your partner, little did you imagine that you’d become the Brady Bunch, but here you are. Rocking it, even! There are so many stereotypes about blended families and they’re not always nice. People think that blended families are rife with conflict. They assume that each partner will always favor their own children. In their minds, the home of a blended family is one of tension, stress, and turmoil. Well, sometimes it is, but not any more so than anyone else’s family! Being in a blended family allows you to bring your life experiences together in a new way, and those experiences make for some incredible times.
Things That Won’t Happen In Blended families
The beauty of the past experiences is you can learn from those and use them to help your family. Here are some things that won’t happen in blended families because of those lessons I, as well as you’ve, learned.
You Won’t Be Scared Of Mistakes
Think about it: your whole family has come together beautifully because once upon a time a bunch of people made mistakes. One of the things that won’t happen in blended families is that you won’t be afraid of mistakes. Every mistake is a chance to learn how to do something better the next time. Fear can hold us captive in life and make us indecisive, and hold us back. Your children are going to see right off the bat that even if you make a mistake, something beautiful can result from the mistake. You don’t have to be afraid.
You Won’t Fear Flexibility
The term “when one door closes, another one opens” should ring a bell to you. This is what blended families do all of the time. You’re going to be sharing schedules with other parents and family members, changing schools, getting confused over which chore date belongs to which child. You’re going to get signals crossed with your partner and everyone is going to be mixed up. These are common occurrences when a blended family is trying to bond and get close. Because of that, one of the things that won’t happen in blended families is a fear of flexibility. For the first few months (or years) you will spend the majority of your time just getting used to the patterns and processes that it will take to live peacefully together. Learning to roll with it is a life skill that you all will benefit from learning, so don’t be afraid! At times having a set routine for the kids can really improve the scheduling chaos.
You Won’t Be At A Loss For Advice
When you’re in a blended family, everyone thinks they know what is best for all of you. That part gets annoying, but the flip side? You will never be at a loss for advice. Being at a loss for good advice is one of those things that won’t happen in blended families. You’ll have a wealth of opinions and perspectives to help you see problems in a different way. Remember that flexibility we talked about earlier? This is how it works to your advantage.
There are things that won’t happen in blended families, and that is what makes them special. When you’re all growing and learning and thriving together, there is nothing like it. Enjoy the hectic times, and don’t be afraid of them, they’re just growing pains. What is the best thing you have learned from your blended family?